A well-functioning relationship is important for the well-being of the individual and the family. If you’re in crisis, breaking up or want to get more out of your relationship, couples counselling is often a good way to address the problem and move forward constructively.
The problems are often manifested by, for example:
– frequent arguments or withdrawal
– disagreements over the most basic things
– feelings of blame and disrespect
– a loss of close contact
– Problems are left unresolved because the conversation has stalled
– You become enemies in a fight for survival
– infidelity
Some of the things you can learn in couples counselling include:
– Talking better together and listening to each other
– Dealing with arguments, closeness and difficult emotions
– Identifying what’s causing difficulties
– Making space for what brings joy, fun and meaning
Our lives don’t always develop in the direction we want and difficulties can arise that can be difficult to handle on our own. Crises, conflicts or overwhelm can create a need to expand or adjust the worldview that was established earlier in life.
The help you get from family and friends is not always enough to help you through the circumstances you may suddenly find yourself in. Many people choose to talk to a psychologist in such a situation or to use couples therapy, couples coaching or parcoaching. It all depends.
The advantage is that you’re talking to a person who has only one agenda – to help you – and who has the expertise and experience to embrace whatever you’re struggling with without judgement, while helping you find and start using the paths that lead you through the problems you may be facing. It can be difficult for the individual to recognize where to start. This is where the psychologist can help.
The psychologist helps to uncover and put new perspectives on the problem, allowing the individual to understand the problem and their own reactions. This opens the way to discover and make new choices – and to relate differently to responsibilities and opportunities.